The focus of this week's programme is on how we fall asleep within the pattern of being conflict-avoidance, the consequences of that, the reasons behind that, the necessity of breaking out of the sleepwalking state within that, and how to engage the pattern in a healthy, awake manner, from a state of presence.
We start the journey by defining and clarifying the terms used, and what we our personal definitions are of "conflict" and "avoidance". We will look at how culture and individual personality informs our perceptions of what conflict is and how we are expected to respond to that.
The exploration will move to how individuals are using the pattern or strategy of conflict-avoidance as a way to compensate or defend against something, and if we are asleep to that, running on autopilot - the misunderstandings, injuries and pain that is caused.
Bookings close: 12 May 2023
What time is this workshop?
Saturday 13 May 2023
14h00 - 22h00 (GMT+2 South Africa)
(13h00 - 21h00 London; 08h00 - 16h00 New York)
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Important Information
General:
These workshops are designed to provide a very deliberate, focused space to deal with some tricky topics and difficult patterns. For you, as the participant, to take full advantage of the time, space and resources here, it will be helpful to plan ahead a little...
- If at all possible, rest before the workshop, so you come in fresh.
- Wherever you are setting up your space, ensure you have enough privacy. This is important, not just for yourself but also for other participants in the group.
- Come in early and settle in. The zoom room will open 15min before the start time. (Once we start, the doors will close and no further entry permitted. If for any reason you are delayed, please let us know.)
- It is a good idea to have earphones available, should you need that. Both for privacy, as well as to have a better experience with sound should we be using multi-media.
- Have you snacks, water / juices / teas nearby, to keep up your energy and hydration during the sessions. Have your meals planned or ready in advance.
- The time will fly by, once we begin, so be prepared for that.
- After the workshop, in the week following, and allow yourself space to integrate the insights and shifts you experienced.
We will be using Zoom as our online interactive platform.
Where to find the zoom links for the workshop:
- Zoom meeting links will be included in the attached PDF available on completion of this booking.
- One can re-download that pdf from your account/orders page, at any time.
General guidelines and things to be aware of:
- All online sessions are interactive and participatory.
- Except for certain segments, all participants will be visible on video.
- It is recommended that one familiarize themselves with the basic platform (eg. zoom) before any event. It is the responsibility of the participant to ensure that they are set up comfortably on their side, with the physical (comfortable seating area, lighting, background) and technical setup (sound, mic, computer, internet signal and strength) , and ask for help timeously if there is any problem foreseen or being experienced. If need be, contact us, we will assist you or run a test call prior to any sessions.
- NB - the workshop will be recorded, to allow us to prepare the post-workshop review module. (This will include selected replays from the workshop, an overview of the key perspectives and insights covered in the workshop, as well as additional material that we were not able to include due to time constraints.)
The nature of this type of work requires a certain code of conduct, by both the facilitators and the participants in any process. In general, the following is emphasised as key aspects to ensure a safe and supportive space that allows each person to to take full benefit from the programme.
- Attentiveness and respect for one's self, during the course of the day and the various types of interactions.
- Attentiveness and respect for others, during the course of the day and the various types of interactions.
- Respectfulness of one's own boundaries and the privacy and boundaries of others (eg. in what / how much to share of one's experiences if that becomes relevant).
- Confidentiality - If one is witness to another's experience or story, that the confidentiality of that must be respected.
- If there is ever need for assistance in any way, to alert the us.
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This workshop is rated as moderate, to moderate-high intensity levels.
This rating is a conglomerate assessment of a number of factors and the degree to which participants can be expected to draw on their resources. Some of these components include demand on time, need for privacy, need to step out of everyday routine, mental energy, emotional energy, physical energy, stamina, concentration, capacity to allow change, depths being accessed (from surface to very deep) and changes in levels of consciousness (shift from minimal to significant), degree of blind-spot work, the need for rest before the workshop and the need for rest and recovery after the workshop.
Each person is different and will experience things differently, depending as well on their state of being and energy levels at the time of the workshop. However, in general, this workshop will demand a fair degree of energy to get the full benefit from it.
It will be a very saturated day, and the time will go by very quickly. We will be concentrating into one day, what can be easily be spread over a week. Coming in prepared for this, is helpful. (As a side note - this is another reason the DIY module is included - so that one can relax into the experience of the day without need to try and remember it all or get it all in one go.) There are workshop guidelines above are also useful in preparing for the day.
The last thing that should get in the way of right action, is affordability.
These Quantum Radiance programmes are open to anyone across the globe. And we are well aware that financial circumstances are dynamic and vary greatly across the regions and individuals. The Quantum Radiance Angel Fund has been put in place, to allow for this. The Angel Fund can step in to supplement a percentage of your fee, allowing you to pay what is affordable and still benefit from the full value of the programme.
Access to and Withdrawing from the QR Angel Fund
- Who qualifies to apply?
- Anyone who is sincerely and deeply committed to their journey and has a strong awareness that the quantum radiance programme in question is a part of their next step.
- And who requires support to cover the workshop fee.
- How does it work?
- Usually a certain percentage of the programme fee can be supplemented, allowing the participant to pay what is affordable to them. The fund can usually supplement anything between 5 - 40% of the programme fee, depending on how much assistance one requires. In this conflict-avoidance workshop, the Angel Fund can contribute up to 80% of the programme free for those who require it.
- The booking form above, allows each person to choose an amount that is right for them. Each person is expected to be fair (to themselves and others), and to use the options with integrity and in accordance with the spirit and intention behind this.
Contributing to the QR Angel Fund
- Who contributes to the QR Angel Fund?
- Any payments above the standard rate contribute to the Angel Fund.
- Anonymous contributors (outside of any specific programme) who are inspired to play a role in this way. Read more...
A very special thank you, to everyone who has already contributed to the Angel Fund and made it possible to have this support measure in place.
Terms and Conditions
This is a facility activated and available from 01 January 2023, for anyone who needs financial relief regarding their programme fees.
- This is only for those who legitimately require the relief, and show a very strong commitment to participating in the programme in question.
- It is expected of participants, that they use this facility with integrity and fairness, in a responsible way that takes both themselves and others (who may need access to this support) into consideration.
- The availability of the QR Angel fund facility, and degree of relief offered may vary for different events, or be changed at any time. This is at the sole discretion of QR management.
- The programme director has full authority to determine the extent of support that can be offered to any participant at any given time.
- If it is perceived that certain participants are abusing the use of this facility, their bookings may be cancelled and they may be blocked from any future participation in any QR programme.
In relation to this booking and this programme, the TCs of the following segments are of particular importance. The key points of these are covered within the the descriptions provided on this page, under the various sub-headings.
- Code of Conduct and Ethics of Participants
- Responsibility regarding your login details and access to resources that you may have via your login
- Access to The Quantum Radiance Fund
- Cancellations / Refunds
The full details and general terms and conditions that are attached to all Quantum Radiance services, programmes and products, and that you are agreeing to when booking, are available here. Please let us know if you have any question or queries about anything here.
Frequently Asked Questions
Cancellations and Refunds
Yes you can. You can cancel at any time, up until 24 hours before the date of the event.
If you let us know within 48 of your booking, that you wish to cancel, we can refund you in full. Alternatively, we can transfer the paid amount to another programme of your choice, convert to a coupon for future use, or to a gift voucher.
After 48 hours of your booking, payments are non-refundable. However we can still transfer the paid amount to another programme of your choice, convert to a coupon for future use, or to a gift voucher.
Refunds can be processed if we are notified within 48 hours of the booking.
If you let us know within 48 of your booking, that you wish to cancel, we can refund you in full (or in part, if any services were already provided against that payment). Alternatively, we can transfer the paid amount to another programme of your choice, convert to a coupon for future use, or to a gift voucher.
After 48 hours of your booking, payments are non-refundable. However we can still transfer the paid amount to another programme of your choice, convert to a coupon for future use, or to a gift voucher.
Payment Related
The following payment gateways are available for debit / credit card payments.
- PayPal (processes amount in USD)
- PayFast (processes amount as ZAR)
- For South African Participants, an EFT option is available.
How to choose and where to change (currency, gateway options):
- The prices are set to USD by default, so PayPal will be the default gateway. (For those who wish to use their PayPal account, rather than their card, they can do so.)
- Sometimes one may prefer not to use PayPal (especially if it is enforcing paypal account setups, which may happen in certain regions). If this is the case, use the PayFast gateway instead.
- To use the PayFast gateway the currency must be switched to ZAR. This can be done on the checkout page (option is just below the checkout button at the bottom of the page). The equivalent ZAR amount will be displayed, and you can check out using your debit or credit card.
Firstly, greetings!
There are a few things to be aware of.
- The USD : ZAR exchange rate sometimes becomes quite steep. So please do use the Quantum Radiance Angel Fund to reduce the fee to a comfortable amount.
- On the checkout page, convert the currency to ZAR (below the [PROCEED TO CHECKOUT] button).
- This will give you the Rand value.
- This will also give you the option for EFT, if you do not want to go through PayFast.
Affordability Challenges:
If the pricing is still difficult to cover, even with the Angel Fund options available on this booking page, please do not hesitate to contact us. We will try our best to accommodate you, and make sure you can attend if it as all possible.
Questions that one may have, but not get around to asking...
Ironically, you will find yourself in good company, with the sympathy of others that share your experience of this. Group work is daunting and difficult for quite a few people.
Here is our recommendation, don't think about it too much. Wait till you are there, and then allow the process to guide you into a zone that's comfortable enough, regarding the group. The workshops are designed to take this into consideration.
Although participants are expected to interact and engage, we are also very alert and sensitive to each individual's readiness and boundaries and are always responsive and respectful of that. You can determine for yourself, how far you are able to go with yourself and with others.
Each individual is unique and takes in the experience differently. So if, at any time during the process, you are experiencing difficulty that is really interfering with your experience, just let us know and we will help you out.
On the encouraging side... even for those that are clear that group work is not their favourite thing, they do often pitch up anyway because they have found that the group energy and exposure often helps fast-track certain things. The mirroring, similar or different perspectives from others, glimpses into others' experiences of the same challenges... all this provides insights, break-through opportunites, clarity, opportunites for understanding and compassion. And perhaps, most importantly, a chance to recognise and remember again, that you are not alone on the journey.
And if all this is not enough to overcome the dread of group work, you still have the option to request a 1:1 workshop or programme for yourself.
Privacy for yourself in these workshops is crucial.
If you think the space you will be using will compromise your privacy, check the following:
Step 1: Really consider your options again.
- have you overlooked alternative venues?
- have explicitly asked your your family (or friends) for their support? (This is often side-stepped because it feels uncomfortable and too much to ask for. However, it may be a very necessary step for you in your own process, to be able to do that. Very often, they will volunteer to take themselves out for the day, or give you the room you need for the few hours of the programme. If you don't ask, you won't know.)
Step 2: Make the best of it.
- Only if you have really checked off step one.
- Let us know as well, that you are in such a position, so that we will take that into consideration during the workshop.
- Earphones are a must... this would be for the protection of the other participants. But also, to give you a way to block out some of the outside distractions.
- Position yourself in such a way that you are screened from people walking past. You may want to use a temporary screen of some sort to do that.
If it really is a situation where you cannot concentrate and others have some demand on your attention, it may not be a good idea to take on this programme. It will not be fair on yourself. However, if that really is the situation, please discuss with us, and perhaps together, we can come up with a workable solution or alternative.
Yes, you can attend the Saturday workshop. On this day we will be exploring the topic from a broader perspective that is relevant to everyone, even if they are uncertain of their enneagram type or unfamiliar with the enneagram framework.
The more type specific programmes however, may be unsuitable for you. However, please do contact us and discuss your situation, so that we can advise you more specifically. There are, for example, some situations where - given enough time, your enneagram typing can be done and you can potentially qualify for the more specific programmes.
If it is available, you will have access to the replay of certain segments of the workshop, via the review module that is included in this programme. This will, however, not be a full replay of the workshop. The segments that are made available for replay are usually teaching segments or discussions with the teachers, that does not include participant interaction. The careful editing prior to release is to protect the privacy of the participants.
Except in very particular circumstances, participants themselves are not permitted to record. Not only would that be a breach in trust for all concerned, but it is also usually unnecessary.
These workshops are designed to be experiential. Unlike webinars and academic presentations, these workshops are to be relaxed into, so that information can be received naturally, via all domains of intelligence. It would not serve much purpose to have the full workshop replay. It is much more important to be fully present when there, and take in the experience in the moment, in such a way that it lasts. Often, you have taken in more than you realise and your body and heart have a memory of your experience, even if your mind cannot hold it. So, take notes where inspired, or not... either way it works out for you.
As a standing policy, all workshops are reviewed by the programme director and authorised QR team, to assess outcome and quality, to plan for improvements and future programmes, to address requests and feedback from participants. The workshop recording essential to this process.
Over and above this general reason, specifically in relation to this workshop, recordings will be used to:
- make available selected replay segments for inclusion in post-workshop review module
- revisit participant comments and feedback that may have come up, to address either with them personally or to include discussion of these in the the supplementary post-workshop module
- summarise key themes and perspectives that were covered in the workshop
- to identify potential gaps in the workshop (eg. due to time constraints), that can be covered or addressed in the supplementary module
NB -- All recordings are strictly managed by the programme director, who is the only one who has access. Recordings are saved directly onto a local hard-drive, in a secure system. Any replay material provided is carefully edited to maintain participant confidentiality, and access to any replays are restricted to authorised participants only, within the parameters of the programme they are participating in.
Surprisingly, the virtual-online platform can also provide a depth of experience that is rich and fulfilling. Obviously, the experience is not the same, as it would be in an in-person setting, and one can miss experience of being in a venue with others. However, we have found from experience and feedback from participants, that they have often been surprised at how deep their experiences are, and the level of connection and support with the facilitators and the group. Interestingly, the lack of physical venue helps one focus on the "energetic venue" that everyone is experiencing.
If this is your first experience with a Quantum Radiance online workshop, come and try it for yourself. We would welcome your feedback on this question.
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